Common Client Mistakes
Having Unclear Objectives: One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to go through the litigation without knowing what you hope to accomplish. If you know what you want to get out of the litigation, you will feel less lost and confused. If you know where you are going and have a plan for getting there, you will be able to assess your progress and make adjustments in your plan if necessary.
Succumbing to the Other Side's Mental Engineering: Another common mistake you must not make is to allow the other side's head games to bother you. Before you embark on a divorce or custody fight, even before you go lawyer hunting, take an emotional inventory. Do you feel scared, angry, weak, powerful, afraid, confused? If you feel angry and powerful, that's great. If you feel weak, afraid, or confused, you need to get your thoughts organized and make a plan so you can start to feel less so.
Becoming Discouraged: As your divorce progresses and your nerves start to fray, compare the divorce to those other struggles. You are going to have ups and downs, but having a bad day does not mean that all is lost. Look at your action plan and see how far you have come.
Using Your Lawyer as a Therapist: Many times, you will be tempted to talk to your lawyer about your personal problems, particularly since he or she is right in the middle of the action. Resist the temptation. Your lawyer is not trained to help you with nonlegal issues.
Expecting to Get Justice
by Going to Court: Many people naively believe that, if they can just
get the judge to listen to what their ex did, the judge will make things OK.
Well, it doesn't work that way. Why not?